As for the TV in the visible area, I would suggest putting the remotes somewhere that your kids can’t use them when they wake up! Let it be known that the TV is an earned privilege and they don’t get until they’ve completed their clipboards. Then when they get home, they’re expected to do everything else on their list before they can have any screen time. There are some things our kids have to do before they can leave for school, such as making their beds, getting ready for the day (obviously!), etc. She’ll learn very quickly that she needs to do things in the manner in which mom says they need to be done! We’re shooting for progress, not perfection, so as long as she continues to do better, then you’re doing a great job! So if she’s having to re-do her tasks a lot or says she’s doing them but isn’t, then start taking screens (or any other rewards) away. And honestly, the screen could be a reward, but not expected. Putting her at the table without any other distractions is a good way for her to want to do those types of things quicker so she can get back to doing the “fun” things. If she’s doing school work, reading, or anything that you need to physically see her doing, then have her sit down next to you or in the same room as you to do them. But she should realize that things will go a lot quicker if she does things the right way the first time. Unfortunately, that means that it’ll take more time with you having to make sure that things have been done in a way that you’re okay with. There is definitely some “training” involved with this one! I would suggest that YOU are the one who allows her to check things off. They won’t have someone else to clean up after themselves when they leave the mess, so now is a good time to start practicing for once they’re out on their own! If the kitchen needs to be cleaned before or after a meal, have them start helping to prepare and make the meals (if they don’t already) so they realize that cooking and cleaning goes hand-in-hand. They will most definitely NOT be a fan of it at first, but it should light a fire under them to get their things done quicker! This is also a great time to start working on those life skills that every teen needs. If they want their electronics (or whatever else is motivational for them) back, then they have to pitch in and help out around the house. If they use their phones for their alarms, buy they a regular alarm clock so they don’t need their phone. Make them put their phones, any remote controls (such as tv or gaming) or anything else they’d rather be doing than working on their family responsibilities in a basket every night before they go to bed. Just adapt the system and make it work for you!ĭo your teens use electronics, such as cell phones, during the day? If so, you could most definitely use that as a driving factor to motivate them. Likewise, once their clipboard is done for the week, they have the opportunity to make extra money by doing extra jobs around the house. Theirs is an “all or nothing” policy if the clipboard is done by Saturday night, they get their $5. Most of their teenagers wait (or have to wait, because they are so busy) until Saturday to complete their clipboards. They have a clipboard that has a WEEK'S worth of tasks to accomplish (rather than daily), and it has to be done by Saturday night. Each kid (regardless of age) gets $5/week. You can learn all about that in my allowance 101 post!įriends of ours use a similar system, but had to adapt it for their teenagers. Then if they want to earn some extra money, they come to us and we figure out what works best. The expectation in our family is that the clipboards need to be done as a part of the “norms” of living in our house. We actually no longer use our clipboards as a way to earn allowance. If you do an allowance, this clipboard system is a great way to keep up with it! Set an allowance for each child, then set expectations for earning that allowance! Maybe it's “Clipboards must be done 5x completely each week in order to get your allowance.” Or maybe it's “You get $1 each day your clipboard is completed.” However you do it, these clipboards help you keep track of it all!
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